It isn’t the easiest thing in the world trying to figure out how to save a marriage alone. Trying to convince your spouse to give you another shot, especially when she already has her foot out the door, is going to take some work. And while every situation is different, I like to believe that any relationship in most conditions can be saved. And the sooner you start trying to fix things the better, because once that ugly thing called divorce starts in motion, the harder it is to stop.
So just how do you convince your significant other to give you another shot? Well, for one, don’t beg or plead. I don’t care what anyone else tells you, begging is not the best way to save your marriage. Begging is counter productive, and even if it does work, why would you want to start rebuilding your relationship with that sort of a beginning? Don’t do it.
Believe it or not, the best way to start off is by acting totally mature, and keeping your cool, no matter the situation. If you can sit her down and explain to her in a calm way why you want to save your marriage, that will work wonders compared to the pleading route. And I wouldn’t recommend getting too blubbery either. You just want to make sure she understands how you really feel about her, and that you want to save your marriage, and are willing to do whatever that takes. If you have had problems with acting like a baby in your relationship in the past, then doing this will really surprise her.
Another way to show a good level of maturity is to suggest marriage counseling. There have been plenty of marriages saved over the years with counseling, so why not yours too? Plus, if you can get your wife to agree to go to marriage counseling, it will keep divorce just that much more out of the picture. It is possible to save your marriage alone, but don’t be too stubborn or proud to seek help from others.
Plus, during marriage counseling, you two will have the opportunity to get a lot of things worked out, plus discover why you got together in the first place. There was obviously love in there at some point, other wise you two wouldn’t be together, right? This will also help hammer out any issues you are having, that way you can start rebuilding your marriage the right way, so you don’t end up in the same position later on down the road.
Just remember that if you were looking at getting divorced, it can happen again at anytime, unless you take the right steps to make sure it doesn’t ever happen again. Saving a marriage alone can be tricky, but as long as you are willing to make some sacrifices, and even ask for a little help from others, then you may not be entirely alone when it comes to saving your marriage. And trust me, you don’t really want to be alone for something as difficult as saving your marriage.